Questions To Ask On A First Date

Questions to Ask on a First Date

Getting ready for a first date and not sure how the conversation will go? Get some awesome questions to ask on a first date right here. You will find a great list here that has been gathered from our research.

Questions to ask on a first date is a balancing act

Thanks to popular culture, TV,  movies and other outside influences, the “first date” has become something to fear instead of something to look forward to. For most people, the best advice is the simplest, just be yourself, but the problem is, the pressure, or perceived pressure stops many people from being able to do just that.

Therefore, this list of questions to ask on a first date is designed to perform two functions. Firstly, of course, to help you think of something to say to fill any awkward silences without talking about yourself, but secondly, and most importantly to give you the confidence and reassurance that you are not going to sit there making a fool out of yourself.

There are a few reasons that asking questions is a popular tactic for first dates: People want to take the pressure off themselves, they don’t want to sit in silence, and they want to get to know the person they are dating. What better way to do this than by prompting the other person to speak?

One tip for you before the questions begin: Do not go too far with your questions, getting to know someone is a slow and subtle practice and you don’t want to go too deep too fast. There are a lot of questions below, but they are for you to pick and choose, leave some at home and use them next time.

The order of these questions is deliberately mixed up and random. This is so that you don’t just recite the list and sound like a robot on your date, you have to think about when to use them or it will just sound weird and unexpected.

Now, read on for some questions to ask on a first date!

What kinds of things really make you laugh?

This isn’t so much for you to learn how to make them laugh, but for them to think about happy things and feel relaxed.

Did you ever have a nickname when you were in high school?

Reminiscing about the past and childhood is a good way to build rapport with people.

Where do you want to be in five years? 

This is a standard question, but very useful for getting to know somebody and they will have most likely answered it before.

If you could be anywhere, doing anything right now, where/what would it be?

Insightful, entertaining, but pressure-free.

Do you like roller coasters?

I would say this one should be used in the right place. If it is just blurted out it will probably seem too random, but used well can be an interesting question.

If you were a product what would your slogan be?

Again, this is just a fun question but make sure you use it at the right time, towards the end of the meal when conversation is going well and one or two fun/random questions have already been asked.

What was your longest relationship? 

Sometimes I like to save this for a second or third date but it is not uncommon to appear on first dates.

What do you like about your best friend, what makes them your best friend?

Asking a guy this question might not get a particularly insightful answer but a girl will definitely feel comfortable with talking about friends and why they like them.

What’s your favorite place in the entire world?

Get people thinking away from the dinner table and somewhere whimsical and they will feel more relaxed, they will also start to associate you with their favorite place.

How long have you known your longest friend?

This is another rapport building get to know you type question. It is also pretty non-threatening and can lead to interesting conversation based on the follow-up questions.

Do you have any siblings? 

One of the most standard conversation building questions known to first daters around the world.

What is your favorite way to spend a Saturday?

People can differ wildly on this, so it is good to find out early on how suitable you are for one another.

Did you ever have a nickname when you were in high school?

This is a good one to have relatively early on in the date, and can be quite fun if the nickname was particularly embarrassing  Remember you will have to admit to whatever your nickname was too though!

How often do you talk to your parents?

This one is not necessarily better for girls or guys, it works quite well and makes for easy conversation and sets up other family questions well.

Do you think more about the past, the future, or the present?

I wouldn’t read too much into their answer, most people probably think about all three in equal balance, but it is a nice question to ask.

What was the best thing to happen to you today?

Save this one for last, hopefully the date was the best thing to have happened!

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